The "who are you, really" results are in:
The Lifegiving Optimist
Get ready to ditch the shoulds, drop the mask, and make way for the clear, confident sound of your own inner voice.
⬆️ What can I say? You're multifaceted and magnificent… and just one name won't do you justice.
Also known as…
The Soul of the Party
The Wave of Wonder
The Ride or Die
You are...
At Your Core: You Are A Fun Lovin’ & Free-Spirited FACILITATOR of Joy
Can you tell I’m excited?
So what does it really mean?
You're a smile millionaire and the O.G. Ride or Die. Your fancy-free energy is infectious (& maybe a little infamous?)
A day hanging with you could start with a morning cold plunge, evolve into a mid-afternoon silent rave, and end backstage at the hottest ticket in town…swapping stories with Ed Sheeraen til the wee hours of the morning. Let's face it, you make life more magical! Your positive presence is palpable and so needed in today's loaded landscape.
When you feel lost at sea remember… as the Soul of The Party, you don't just skim the surface. Nope, you're brave enough to surf any wave no matter how gnarly. Though peeps may come for the fun, they stick around for how fundamentally unique and incredible you are. As you share your soft and serious sides (and let yourself feel all the feels) the friends who are worth their salt will only love you more.
The great news is the more you return to your center, the easier it becomes to share all your joyful energy and enthusiasm with yourself too. Cause you've truly got more than enough to go round, Lifegiving Optimist.
When you claim your balance, and quiet the voices of other people's expectations to hear your own truth it's clear:
You have all the answers that you've been waiting for.
This quiz result is here to acknowledge YOU in your fullness and encourage you to embrace the process of your becoming.
Truth is, you're complex… nuanced in ways a quick quiz could never capture BUT your result will offer support in helping you reconnect to your essence, and highlight the qualities you emphasized in your responses.
quick disclaimer
Your goal for the next 7-minutes...
Stick around for awhile...
— to fill your cup and find inspiration to dream bigger, live bolder, and let your one of a kind brilliant light shine brighter.
🔖So bookmark your heart out, save, print, or pop this link into your Notes app so you can revisit your new happy place any time you need a reminder of who you are.
(should you choose to accept it!)
Your Who Are You, Really?
✔️Ride or Die specific insights into who you are, how you show up, and personality patterns that can be both superpowers or keep you playing small.
Let's begin!
✔️At least 53 opportunities to acknowledge how wonderful you are, just as you are, with an equal number of invitations to dig a little deeper, reconnect to your truth, get clear on who you’re becoming, and redefine what living an authentic life looks like for YOU.
✔️Where the Woo Meets the Work: a collection of stories and action steps specific to who you are that will support you in ticking off your personal growth goals one day at a time.
✔️ How to configure your inner compass and get honest about where you’re at so you can get to where you want to go.
✔️Twinkle light practices to gently invite you to shine a light on the dustiest corners of yourself aka. The parts you’re partial to hiding away to deal with some other day (no shame in The Wave of Wonder’s self-acceptance game)
✔️How who you HAVE influences who you are, and how to get intentional so you can build a network that nurtures you into your next-level!
Quiz Result Sneak Peek:
(+ this is just the first shelf at the world’s biggest Whole Foods)
Your Special Quirks & Incredible Qualities At-A-Glance
If you were a fruit you’d be…
Strawberry. Strawberry plays well with everyone. Doused in sugar, jammin' as a preserve, or served up without any frills — you deliver the delight!
Your dream vacay
All-Week Music Festival In Ibiza. Over-the-top fashion choices, seriously sick tunes, epic night clubs, and daily beach excursions… You're in your element!
Your friends might vote you...
Most likely to run off with the circus. You go where the wind takes you, friend.
Your perfect theme song
"Pump up the Jam" by Technotronic. "While your feet are stompin/' And the jam is pumpin'/
Look ahead, the crowd is jumpin'/".
Psst… loving this uplifting quiz result so far? Share a few morsels of this magic with a friend you think might need a boost!
Dusty Corners:
Ready to dive deeper?
As a past-professional photographer and someone who still loves to capture moments with a camera, I can confidently say:
Based on your quiz responses, you’ve got no shortage of good qualities, but on the flip, you might struggle with certain things more than others — here are some outsider insights into the dusty corners you might shy away from and the twinkly lights you boldly share with others…
Twinkle Lights
✨You can read a room like none other, and connection comes naturally to you. You have a knack for making others feel like they belong.
✨You let your inner child lead, which means you approach the world with energy and optimism. You're also great at channeling that energy into finding practical solutions to problems.
✨ Creative and curious, you're a natural storyteller, entrepreneur, influencer, and community builder.
🧹You love entertaining others, but remember: that's not your job. You're not here to please anyone else, so keep tuning into yourself. Boundaries are your bestie.
🧹Your love of variety makes it hard for you to sit still. Get curious about making bigger commitments when you're tempted to run. You might just surprise yourself with your own staying power.
🧹It can be challenging for you to be vulnerable and let others see your depth. Being accepted for all that you are starts with accepting yourself. Especially the parts of you that you'd like to hide.
A world without shadows would make for some pretty drab pics and people.
Uniquely You Check-In
You know yourself better than anyone, so grab a notebook and jot down a few unique to you twinkle lights and dusty corners…
Remember: this isn’t about what’s right or wrong or putting elements of yourself into boxes labeled “black + white”. It’s about accepting the GRAY. The truth that no one on this earth is perfect, and thank God for that.
When you accept yourself for all that you are, only then can you shamelessly evolve into an even more authentic version of self.
After all…
You’re a full-spectrum human — not just being, but in the process of BECOMING.
Change is the only constant.
You might be a work of art, but who you are isn’t static like the Mona Lisa. So take this opportunity to tune into who you’re becoming.
Like the cutest lizard at the zoo, can you shed what doesn’t serve you anymore and build a new layer of self that supports the next phase in your ongoing evolution?
Maybe you're ready to:
… turn your loss into a legacy of openness and awareness so others don't feel so alone in their time of turmoil.
… stop hustling so hard to renovate the dang cafe yourself and get the help you know you need.
… take the Spanx off and show up as your curviest, freest self with zero need to apologize.
… give yourself permission to dream bigger and follow your creative curiosities without judgment (whether it’s picking up a paintbrush, restoring an old lamp, writing a book, inventing a new recipe, or something totally different!)
… pause , rest, reset, and practice not attaching your deservedness to how hard you work or how much you give.
Success isn’t like chia seed pudding; it doesn’t gel overnight. You’re going to have to walk slowly in the direction of yourself, one small step at a time.
This is where…
Bring to mind ONE thing you want to let go of starting now so you can get one step closer to the person you’re becoming.
Take a deep breath, do a quick body scan, and give yourself 15 seconds:
The woo meets the work.
Uniquely You Check-In
Got it?
Francis Cholle, author of The Intuitive Compass, puts it this way:
“We don’t have to reject scientific logic in order to benefit from instinct.”
We can honor and call upon all of these gifts, and we can seek
balance. And by seeking this balance we will finally bring all of the
resources of our brain into action.”
It’s in the science and the self.
The work and the woo.
The Google and the gut.
When we invite that balance, we can begin to recognize the differences between our own voice and the voices around us. We start to find peace about whether or not we’re doing the right thing. We can start to hear our own voice again, loud and clear, above any other noise.
It sounds different for each of us, but it’s there and it’s impossible to describe because it’s not just within us, it is us. It speaks our language,and you’ll know it when you hear it. And also? You’ll know it when you don’t.
When’s the last time you sat down face to face with just… yourself? (Don’t worry about the physiological impossibility of this, just use your imagination 😉)
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"If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people."
- Virginia Woolf
There’s this thing called negativity bias. In a nutshell, it’s our very human penchant to emphasize the negative so much that we often allow it to gobble up the good.
And so we focus on what’s wrong. We pick ourselves apart, waging a war within that no one else can see.
The result? We lose touch with the truth of who we really are, what we really want, and how we really feel.
It’s time for you to breathe life into that dream of who you are becoming. Name it out loud. Hold her close to your heart. Strive to balance out your inner critic with your inner Lizzo.
Sing to yourself:
"I'm my own soulmate."
Or another fave…
"I'm way too fine to be this stressed."
This first, shaky step is where confidence grows. This is where the “magic happens.” This is how dreams become reality.
This is where the woo aspects of going within and getting REAL with yourself, become the most meaningful work you could possibly do.
If you’re like most people, you might have a hard time coming up with an answer.
When did you last acknowledge all that you are, how far you’ve come, all the actions big and small you’ve taken that have shaped who you are in this moment?
Based on your quiz responses, I want to share a story about how to feel your feelings (spoiler: this is straight from the pages of my best-selling book How Are You, Really?)
“I can’t imagine leaving . . . but I also can’t fathom staying,” my friend said about her career as she grabbed a handle of truffle fries. Around the table, we all nodded in unison. Been there, done that with work, with relationships, with just about everything. We’ve followed the road we were accustomed to—the beaten path instead of the best one.
Head to your inbox when you’re done reading through your quiz result for a Soul of the Party specific story & practice straight outta my best-selling book How Are You, Really?
story time
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It’s time to take a look at Who You Have
Ready to build a network that nurtures your next-level?
Call me captain obvious, but the people in your life have a massive influence when it comes to who you are today and who you’re becoming!
Your trek does not have to be this solitary climb that leaves you at the mountain top to take in the view all by yourself.
Take it from me: there is breathtaking beauty in letting go and letting in.
So why do we so rarely stop and appreciate the people who fill our days with smiles, the ones who make us think, the humans we admire, the souls we could always turn to for solid advice, the friends who bring the fun, the colleagues who make work meaningful, the list goes on.
The thing about building a tight-knit network of people you can turn to for anything and vice-versa?
You’ve heard it a million times before: if you want to make a friend, be a friend. That’s true, but I believe there’s more to the old adage.
To find your people, you have to be your person.
But can I offer you a gentle truth here?
Your full, true, and whole self. Naked while fully clothed. It’s one of the hardest, most important things to do, and it’s one of the rarest practices in our modern digitally tethered age.
Why? Because we get this wrong over and over again. We scroll through seas of familiar faces every single day. We send Insta likes and emoji affirmations. We rely on social media to keep us, well, social. And we assume that, if we’re connected 24-7 to nonstop, ever-expanding networks, we’ll never run the risk of being lonely.
The opposite of loneliness isn’t just connection. The opposite of loneliness is being known. It’s a connection with people you know truly know you.
You have to show up as yourself.
A quiz result can only take you so far — give yourself some space to check in on where the gaps are in your personal tapestry of support…
✔️ Are you showing up fully for the people around you?
✔️ What’s holding you back from offering your honest self to friends, new and old?
✔️ Where can you let go? Who can you let in to share your load?
Uniquely You Check-In
You’re a full-spectrum human — not just being, but in the process of BECOMING.
Here’s the thing influencers don’t realize — people get to CHOOSE who they allow into their sphere of influence. So let me ask you…
Are the brands and teachers and thought leaders you’re following on IG inspiring you or are you getting caught in comparison traps that leave you feeling tapped out?
Based on your quiz responses, I have a few ideas for more resources might want to learn from.
^^All of the above is about your INNER circle, but what about the people who you choose to learn from, the leaders lighting the way to a destination you feel called to work toward?
People who’s Instagram feeds reflect who they authentically are. Human beings who are equally flawed but absolutely committed to living their most authentic lives. Wanna meet ‘em?
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I believe that change happens where the woo meets the work. I can’t wait to show you exactly what I mean…
Let’s turn down the noise of the world and go back to the heart of it all…
After educating thousands of women across the globe, I’ve seen the same things come up over and over for all of us: self-doubt, imposter syndrome, unfulfilled dreams, fears and anxieties, and a deep, audible cry to have a meaningful life and legacy.
I wrote my #1 NYT best-selling book How Are You, Really? (and the quiz you just took!) as an answer to all of those question marks. As a place for me to meet with you, my dear reader, at our very own starting line — or restarting line.
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We sure as hell can’t always question our lives clearly if we don’t close our eyes to the nonstop jazz hands of every other answer parading by.
Some of the questions and practices I shared in this quiz will require you to circle back, sit down, get still, and dig deep. I don’t think you’d be here if you didn’t have what it takes.
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Sharing is caring!
Maybe you’re thinking:
Get ready to take stock of who you are today so you can become the person you want to be for all of your tomorrows.
Here’s a page outta your Perfectly You Playbook: (you’ll write the rest, right?)
Get Quiet
Commit
I'm a big fan of goal setting, but an even bigger fan of goal getting. Staying connected to who you are and who you are BECOMING is a lifelong commitment. But with that commitment come a whole lot of gifts.
Namely, a life you can be sure is authentically yours. Worth it? I think we both know the answer.
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We covered a lot of ground in this quiz result (bet you were expecting a buzzfeed style synopsis equivalent to which breakfast cereal matches your personality, weren’t ya!)
Be sure to bookmark this quiz result. Share the link to the quiz! with the ones you love (and tag me @jennakutcher so I can celebrate!)
Come back to this page anytime you need a reminder of even a small sliver of what makes you so darn wonderful.
Some of the questions and practices I shared in this quiz will require you to circle back, sit down, get still, and dig deep. I don’t think you’d be here if you didn’t have what it takes.
“Now what?”
Just the addition of that one precious word, that small invitation to cut the crap and stop with the niceties and be real with yourself and whoever is brave enough to ask it?
It feels like a gulp of oxygen, like coming to the surface and seeing the light again.
If you liked this quiz, you’ll LOVE my best-selling book…
(It’s got everything you experienced here and a whole lot more.)
Have you ever felt the feeling that comes when you cut the fluff, get past the small stuff, and are asked “How are you, really?”
Question for you:
Living your truth
one answer at a time.
THE ONE QUESTION YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF:
how are you, really?
Forget hustle harder. Forget a mandatory 5 a.m. wake-up. Forget outlining your life plan in six-month, one-year, and five-year spans. Want to build a vision for your life that is unapologetically true to who you are and what you want? Here’s where you start.
As seen on these best seller lists:
Who Is This Book For?
if you're wondering...
Since I’ve been in the thick of this book for longer and deeper than anyone else, I think I can speak to this QUITE CONFIDENTLY:
If you’re looking for ways to protect your peace, this book is for you.
If you want to know what it’s like to pursue a passionate life without spiraling into making your whole life about your career, this book is for you.
If you have ever felt like fear was your greatest obstacle to living out a vision you have for yourself and your future, this book is for you.
If you’ve been wondering when any of the money and success will come and if it will be half as satisfying as they promise, this book is for you.
If you want to create a life that is fueled by both peace and purpose, this book is for you.
If you feel like you’ve been in cycles of pleasing everyone else, achieving non-stop, and getting a gold star without ever feeling like any of that was for YOU, this book is for you.
If you’ve been terrified of letting even the good things happen for you, this book is for you.
If you’re seeking a long walk with a friend who wants to listen, learn, and encourage you, this book is for you.
The book is for you.
If you want to get up to life-building with me, see what tools I’ve been using in my own, and learn from people who inspired me, too, then my book...
IS FOR YOU.
how are you, really?
To put it simply, this book is for the one who says, “Screw all the shiny stuff. I want to know what it really takes to build a life I love.”
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Your Journey Home to Yourself Has Only Just Begun…
To say I’m grateful to walk alongside you is more of an understatement than saying "The sunsets on Maui are great!"
It’s a privilege to be in your world and you better believe I take that seriously.
The fact that I get to invite you into life’s learning process with me, introducing you to new ways to grow your business (if you have one!), change your life, or just make a tiny shift in how you show up for yourself. I am genuinely excited for what’s to come, and I hope you feel that beaming at you through your screen!
Here’s to growing ourselves, creating lives we’re so delighted to be living, having as much fun as possible, and leaving the world a little better than we found it, ey?
Meet you in your inbox with a whole lot more goodness (including a link to refer back to your quiz results whenever you need!)
Thanks for being here!
Jenna
